A conversation over dinner.

Ok so today I was having dinner in the cafe with a couple of my girls. And some how we began to talk about the ever so popular topic "Relationships" OMG what and F'in suprise. Ok so we spoke about the frustrating times when you are with your significant other and you ask the simple question " What do you want to do?" and their reply usually come up somewhere between "I don't care" and " what ever you want to do?" Now this may sound very familiar and very very annoying. So I vote from now on people.... we ask "what don't you want to do?" I know this may sound crazy... but it is actually very effective. I mean they may seem a little taken back and confused, dumb founded really scratching their heads to think of a real answer. It is really a funny thing to watch, but then again it works. See we are so used to options, that we never really think about what we genuinely want. See I have yet to try this but I promise I will and I will get back to you with the results. Or you could just let me know??
And next on the agenda was the idea of divorce. Why are a table of 19-20 year olds talking about divorce right?? Well that just goes to show you how messed up the world is that we discuss how we are going to get out of marriages before hand. But thats neither here nor there. So it was said that white people and spanish people don't know how to breakup with people. This was based off the fact the group felt that more whites and spanish kill their sidnigficant others more than other races. Which can or can not be confirmed by the nightly news. Now on a side bar, my cousin is suffering from a voodoo hex. Now we are west indian decent so I believe in all that stuff. So my grandmother once said that if a woman puts her "lady juice" in a mans food he would be forever bonded to her. Now my cousin has had this done to him and I was telling my girls that I had found a cure for him and I hoped it would work. They had never heard of such and were pretty much disgusted by the idea but none the less intrigued. See I explained that no matter that person wants you, whether you want them or not. This can work in or out of you favor. "You must not dabble in de weys of magic" said my auntie. This started the discussion of how horrible this is because who is to say that that person will be the person YOU want forever. See now my cousins X wants him gone but he can't shake her. Then my girl says " NO thats crazy see, I want you to be able to leave me! Cause when you feel like you can't leave me alone is when it becomes violent." This statement is very true. Then the light bulb above my head went off!!
I honestly believe that the reason why people are so disturbed about divorce is because they are left with out explanation, and they begin to hate the other person. See if you knew the other person hated you you wouldn't want to be with them anyway and it would make the whole thing alot easier.

Now I know this may sound crazy as hell but think about.... if you
husband was like "look! I don't want to be with you anymore. I will
not argue about this. Either we can get a divorce or I could just kill you?" lol (sorry) But
honestly I would be like "Really.. ok well Iam going to just get my stuff, you know you can
have the house"

and I would leave. No sadness nothing because I would be happy that he didn't take the alternate route. I really think if the leaving partner would put it to people like that they would honestly come out less sad and happy to be alive for real for real. I just think that you would be happier to have your life instead of trying to salvage a marriage with a homicidal divorcee? Now this may seem crazy to some but honestly think about all the women and men that have been innocently killed by their x's... don't you think they would have enjoyed the option? YES. Now I think I have prepared myself for the next couple of failing relation sips, because every time I get my heartbroken I'll think.... at least he didn't chop me up and feed me to the dogs.... TRUE STORY.